Ever wonder what you actually do? The ideas, thoughts, feelings that you do within your life and how it shapes you? Do you allow those around you to be the one to shape you or do you allow only a little bit of them to knead and help YOU shape your person.
A lot of people will say “I’m my own person.” “I do what I want.” “I make my own decisions.” – Yet, really those within our lives – in that revolving door called “life” shape and mold the person we are.
I can not escape the fact that I have allowed good people and those not so good to shape the person I have become and will become even more. I have let others make decisions for my life and steer me in directions that I should not have taken. But I’ve also taken my own reigns and steered away from those people who insist on re-shaping my life as well. I’m gullible to a point. I can say that openly. When we allow people to make (help with) decisions in our lives we are gullible to a point.
This past week I wondered to myself again why I went back to the social media mecca called Plurk. Back in November, when I felt that I just had enough with this feeling of sadness of reading and looking at the site (where I had met so many lovely people), I deactivated my account and walked away. I stayed away for over a month. I thought at first that I would miss it, the constant talking with people that I knew in world and on there, but really – I didn’t. I found that I was talking more in world and not wasting time there. Sure, I missed people and doing quick chats and reading funny stories – but I did not miss the feeling of loneliness and sadness that seemed – even seems – to wash over Plurk most times.
Yet, I went back. I’m still hugely skeptical and much more guarded than before. Even prior to leaving I barely talked openly about anything because there is this feeling that not everyone should share SO MUCH. Okay, wait…I share here, but here is different. Writing is different. It’s not a flash of thought like Plurk is (or even status updates on Facebook). But I’m still guarded. People look at you for what you say, do, act, look, and your opinions. If your opinions aren’t the same as theirs – you’re fucked. I sometimes look at Plurk and think that if you’re not vocal enough, rude enough or callous enough, then your voice doesn’t get heard. Funny how that is.
Which brings me back to those people who “shape” your life. Who we allow to do so and how much. Within a place such as Plurk we allow those we “think” are interesting to shape the “persona” on such a site. You can disagree with me, but to me it’s true. If you really want to get to know the person for who they are – get to know them before judging them right away. Get both sides of the story. Learn to make the decisions that will shape your person, and choose accordingly.
For credits and landmarks, see below ❤
Coat: :Gabriel: Zip Up Tweed Jacket – Grey (xxs) / Takuya Jinn *The Men’s Dept*
Bag: :Gabriel: Body Bag – Black (xxs) / Takuya Jinn *The Men’s Dept*
Skirt: coldLogic – Stuart – Pink (xs) /Damien Fate, Janie Marlowe, & Zyrra Falcone
Tights: Izzie’s – Heart Tights – Grey / Izzie Button *Dressing Room Fusion*
Boots: Just Designs – Trenton Boots – Woman (xs) / Davidfre *The Men’s Dept*
Skin: Glam Affair – Kaeyln Skin in America 03 D / Aida Ewing
Hair: [LeLutka] Chill Hair – Its Not Ginger / Thora Charron
Eyes: IKON – Promise Eyes in Blue (ml) / Ikon Innovia *FaMESHed*
Hands: Slink – Mesh Hands in Elegant / Siddean Munro
Nail Appliers: Cae :: Natural Manicure / Caelan Hancroft
Pose: oOo Studios “Zachary” / Oleanka Chesnokov